Blame Your Parents for Your Self-Worth Issues?
I know it’s frustrating to be dealing with self-doubt and worthiness issues. Sometimes, it feels like these issues will never go away, and that your feelings of not being good enough will continue to sabotage all of you.
So what should you do? Should you blame your parents???????? It's their fault, right?
Many people do blame their parents. Either they had a really rough childhood with a lot of trauma or a decent childhood with parents who simply couldn’t love them the way they needed to be loved.
When it comes to healing self-doubt and self-worth issues, blaming your parents for your issues is an appropriate response…for a certain amount of time. It’s a stage that you have to go through. You have to feel your inner victim to be able to fully stand in your power.
However, when you move through the blaming stage, healing can occur if you shift your energy from blaming your parents or the Universe to supporting and loving the parts of you that are wounded from your childhood.
How do you begin that post-blaming healing?
Here are 3 steps to show that part of you that feels stupid, weird, unloveable, or dumb that they are indeed also very magical, powerful, and worthy.
Step One: Make Time to Hear Their Story in Moments of Trigger.
When you’re pumping the breaks on that new project because you’re scared or procrastinating on writing that email or blog post, take a deep breath and ask yourself:
- If I finish this project, I’m afraid that...
- If people see and hear me, I’m afraid they’ll think or discover what about me?
- If I’m successful, I’m afraid what will change about my life?
Hear your fears and allow your parts to show you what you’re afraid of and where you learned those fears.
Step Two: Feel the Fear in Your Body
After asking questions to meet the parts of you that are afraid, you’ll most likely begin to see memories of when you learned that you weren’t good enough. Along with those memories will most likely come emotions. FEEL THEM. This is how you release fear’s grip. You feel, express, and release the energy of the emotions.
Step Three: Get Support
Sometimes it’s difficult to see how to navigate our self-doubt or self-worth issues from the inside. You need an outside perspective that can see your blindspots and mirror you back to your truth. Find someone who is skilled and present enough to see you and support you in releasing the energy of fear and self-doubt.
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In conclusion, you can blame your parents or the world for your issues, but deep healing will come when you step out of the victim role and allow yourself to support the parts of you that learned that you aren’t good enough.